Ch #4 If you don’t mean what you say, you don’t care.

The intention of communication between autistic people (alien souls) and normal people (human souls) is totally different. This is why conflict is unavoidable when interacting with the autistic person. 

Human communication is concerned with being social for the sake of being social. Humans call it “social convenience” or simply “being polite”. But for the autistic person, this human “politeness” is seen as the social retardation that it really is. Now let us continue…

Autistic communication is about exchanging only the most vital bits of information that is relevant to the problem at hand – thats it. This is and should be the true purpose and usage of communication: problem solving. 

If what you have to say is not vital or important to solving the problem or increasing your awareness or understanding of the problem at hand, then do not speak or say anything at all. You only come across as fake, disingenuous and uncaring if you do (this is what humans call social). 

Autistic people do not like to waste time and energy on things that are not relevant or important to the problem at hand. 

The autistic life is a constant focus on problem solving and solution findings – not on being “social” for the sake of being “social”. 

Autistic people only speak when they have to speak. Anything else is just a waste of time and energy beyond that. 

The autistic person is constantly busy solving important problems and does not have time to waste on meaningless chit chat. 

Let us now illustrate the point by an example…


How are you? [asking for the purpose of being socially convenient and polite]


[assuming he is asking because he really wants to know the answer] 

Im not fine. My computer got a virus and stopped working so I cant finish or complete an important project. 


[wondering why he has to be so overly specific and expecting him to only say fine]. oh ok. I was just wondering how you feel, thats all. 

Autistic: [feeling that he does not really care about an honest answer and why the fuck he would then bother to ask and waste his time in the first place]. oh ok….Did I not answer? 

Human: [jumping to another question for the sake of convenience]. Anyways… what are your plans for today? 

Autistic: [feeling neglected, neglible and invisible] Did you even listen to my first answer to your first question? What exactly did I say? 

Human: [avoiding taking resoonsibility for asking a question without being interested in the answer and thinking himself to be polite]. So whats for dinner? 

Autustic: aaaaaaaaargh. 

Human: [feeling holyer than thou and socially superior when seeing the autistic person loosing it and getting angry. Calls the autistic person sick…]. 

When you look at the dynamic of the conversation above, you see that the autistic person is focused on the details of what is being said (he really cares about the answer), while the human is not actually interested in the answer but only interested in asking the questions for the sake of social convenience and politeness. 

The human does not ask questions because he is authentically and genuinely interested in the answer. 

The human only asks for the sake of asking – for the sake of being social or convenient. Humans call it “being polite”. Being “polite” for a worthless human means making the other person feel completely invisible, neglected or left out in the process. How polite is that? (Gosh humans are stupid and unaware). 

The human is not interested in the actual content or information of the communication at all. But this is the normal way of communicating in the human world. And the autistic person – who comes from a functional world – sees this as dysfunctional. 

The purpose of communication should be to exchange vital bits of information, not on ignoring the information for the sake of asking out of politeness. How retarded is that?


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